A relationship is either for a Season, a Reason, or a Lifetime. I recently heard this from someone I highly respect when talking about relationships. After doing a little research, it seems that I’m a little behind the curve, but hey we all hear things at specific times in our lives when it’s applicable. I’m inclined to write about it, but I don’t know why. I have a feeling that this is going to be one of those posts that probably won’t get that much attention or hit any buttons because it’s passé, cliché, and maybe a little yesterday. But it really made a difference in how I see relationships. Who knows, maybe I’m not alone in this stage of my life.
In order for this community to be stronger, I am fully committed to being open about my process. As my last relationship came to an end, I found myself on a path to discover what is making the marriages between those closest to me work. I am not going to include all of what has been shared with me because it would go on forever because the conversations continue and lessons evolve as we all do.
The summer of 2017 was a modern pilgrimage re-connecting me with a few of my best male friends. Why is the male component important? Because It was my opportunity to talk about what it means to be a modern man. Who we want to be in relationship, who are we in relationship, and how we are constantly striving to be better. I feel blessed that some of my closests of friends have found those lifetime relationships which has given me the opportunity to learn from them, lean on them for support, be inspired by the work they do within their relationships. Their spouses are just as wonderful and open to talking about their process as well which makes the conversations that much more potent.
I have experienced seasons and reasons that are preparing me for a lifetime. Reflecting back on the seasons they felt exciting, uplifting, and fun. Maybe sometimes a little chaotic, I guess could be akin to the eye fo the storm.
Reasons. These relationships provide some of the hardest lessons, the feelings associated with the growth that I have experienced are so much nore painful that I remember growing pains to ever be. How I managed to survive with no resentment, bitterness, or anger is beyond me. I am thankful for the reasons that the relationship brought to my life. Without the seasonal and reason relationships, I wouldn’t have known what to ask, and who to turn to for support and guidance as I continue to grow. The masculine energy that my male friends bring to my life has literally saved my life. Their unwavering support of my journey to understand lifetime relationships by being open about their processes are making me the best man I can be for the right woman.
As 2018 begins I am planning another pilgrimage. New places, new adventures, maybe some new faces along the way. Please join me in supporting this community by sharing, commenting, and connecting.